The last thing I wanted to hear when my government-sponsored scholarship

was withdrawn during my final year of college abroad was ” Things are working out for your own good, just give it time”. Those words stirred a lot of anger in me ” if only you could understand how I’m feeling, I’d reply. Then I read the story of the Chinese bamboo farmer, which gave me a different view on life.

“ We might live in a microwave generation where everything seems to happen instantly; but many things still obey the laws of nature”

The seed of the Chinese bamboo is planted in the ground like every seed. It is watered and fed with nutrients daily. But like every other plant planted in the same period, the seed of the Chinese bamboo sho

ws no immediate physical response to water and nutrients; it does not appear to grow. The farmer continues to water and feed the seed in year one, year two, and year three. No growth is seen until the fourth year, when the seed finally breaks through the ground. Then, in the space of just five weeks, it grows ninety feet tall. The Chinese bamboo grows to its full capacity within 5 years.

There is a major truth that I believe is being swept under the carpet, as a result of the instant nature of things in the world today. That truth is the bliss of being patient, of being able to trust that nature has its own timing.

Before mobile phones and social media, when people had to contact their loved ones, they wrote letters. People waited months for letters to be delivered and even longer to get a response. The sender had to trust that they would be delivered and lots of patience was required before any answer would be received.

Our world has moved on and our expectations have changed. Today we don’t have to wait for months to get a response from a relation who lives abroad. We live in an instant world where everything is happening right away. It is now and right now or I’ll lose my patience.

We sometimes forget that nature still has its own timings. Seed times and harvest times haven’t changed. If it were in our power, humans would have designed instant trees and instant animals. We may have succeeded in making many things better for ourselves but we have not been able to alter nature’s timing. The job of a farmer is to sow crops and to provide the right environment for the seeds to develop. It is in the hands of nature to make the seed sprout at the right time.

Human life works the same way. We often want success to happen right away, the way food cooks in a microwave. Our generation is gradually ignoring the power of timing, and trusting in nature’s grand design. We have lost our patience.

But each time we ignore these crucial factors we end up with a premature end result that doesn’t match what nature would have produced if we had given it the necessary time needed.

Going back to my bamboo story, that Chinese bamboo plant did not grow ninety feet tall in five weeks. It had been growing all through the five years. The root was developing and spreading in the ground throughout the four year period, even though there was no physical manifestation above ground. The plant was growing downwards where the farmer couldn’t see it. It kept building its foundation, by growing a strong root to help it sustain its big trunk.

However the seed would have died in the ground if the farmer had given up in the first or second year. Despite not seeing an immediate result, the farmer had trust in what he was doing. He continued to water and feed the plant for four years, because he had faith in the grand design of nature. He believed that if he played his own role and did all that a farmer was supposed to do, then he would be given his reward at the right time. That trust and patience Is what kept the farmer persistently feeding his seed for four years. After five years his 90 foot bamboo plants are the reward.

Life is not always straightforward. Most often, it’s not a matter of 5+5 =10. Life can be more like 2+2+1+2+0+0+0+1+2+0+0+1+1=10.

Both sums lead to the same result, but through different paths and processes. To be mature is to accept that things might look rough but the story can still have a great ending.

Developing a mind-set of persistence and believing that giving up is not an option, because we know that things will end well, can help us to get through many tough situations. Accepting that life is not always a straight road will also save us a lot of headaches.

We might live in a microwave generation where everything seems to happen instantly; but many things still obey the laws of nature. Just doing what you are supposed to do, having patience like the Chinese bamboo farmer, and trusting that things will work out for you can help you get through the toughest times.

Having trust, believing in nature’s grand design and understanding the importance of timing will also help us to stay mentally well. Cultivating patience, trust and self -belief will help us to reduce the stress we feel when things don’t happen as quickly as we want them to.